Being dead is easy, Dying is not
Things to do, in preparation
Singapore acronymns for Death Planning Do Not End at CPF
Be Warned: Things Can Go Sideways, Terribly
- When a person has had a stroke and is not cognitive, as in the case of my friend’s father, getting three doctors to certify that we can go through the AMD, added to more familial pressure.
- A DNR does not work at the point of a sudden incident such as a road accident or heart attack. This was the case that my father faced. If you call the ambulance, the first thing they are duty-bound to do is ‘save the patient’ . This is a hard decision and there’s a lot of panic. In the end, it prolonged my father’s ‘death’ by two years during which time he was non-cognitive.
- In my opinion, the ACP is a must-do. One has to give answers to a questionnaire that covers points such as
- How do you want to be treated when you’re no longer able to make decisions for yourself?
- Do you want to still be fed when you can’t make that decision on your own?